I think this is a great skill for that! For driving it may look like starting with quieter areas, and moving up to busy streets and eventually freeways. It’s definitely easy to feel overwhelmed and critical, but what matters here is that you’re trying — driving can be a challenge but give yourself credit for deciding to learn even if it’s later than “usual” ☺️
Thank you so much for this! I love the idea to focus on effort instead of outcome, while gradually challenging ourselves. It can be so easy to fall into the trap of "all or nothing" without this level set. I appreciate your vulnerability with struggling with self-confidence intermittently in life - what a great practice at mastery this is! I am building Mastery currently by committing to writing and creating a space to do so. Thank you!
Thank you so much Amy for taking the time to read and share your thoughts! To bring self compassion into this, I think falling into the trap of all or nothing thinking is very normal for our brains (unfortunately) — so it’s not our fault! So noticing those patterns and shifting our attention to effort makes a big difference and I’m glad you resonated with these ideas ☺️ Writing is a great thing to practice applying build mastery to especially when it comes to sharing your writing publicly. I’m right there with you still building up my confidence here. Wishing you lots of inspiration, creativity, and compassion along the way 💖
This resonates with me. I may introduce the concept to the university students I teach. They often associate struggle with failure instead of learning. Great piece!
Thank you Linda! It means so much to me that it resonates with you and that you may be able to use it to help others. When I was facilitating the group therapy I referenced, my specific group was for young adults - many of which were college students. I really enjoyed working with them and I agree that associating failure with struggle is common. I would imagine all the instant gratification that exists in today’s world adds to this. I always emphasized to them the importance of acknowledging progress no matter how small.
I’m trying so hard to apply this to learning to drive later in life! It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and critical of myself
I think this is a great skill for that! For driving it may look like starting with quieter areas, and moving up to busy streets and eventually freeways. It’s definitely easy to feel overwhelmed and critical, but what matters here is that you’re trying — driving can be a challenge but give yourself credit for deciding to learn even if it’s later than “usual” ☺️
Thank you so much for this! I love the idea to focus on effort instead of outcome, while gradually challenging ourselves. It can be so easy to fall into the trap of "all or nothing" without this level set. I appreciate your vulnerability with struggling with self-confidence intermittently in life - what a great practice at mastery this is! I am building Mastery currently by committing to writing and creating a space to do so. Thank you!
Thank you so much Amy for taking the time to read and share your thoughts! To bring self compassion into this, I think falling into the trap of all or nothing thinking is very normal for our brains (unfortunately) — so it’s not our fault! So noticing those patterns and shifting our attention to effort makes a big difference and I’m glad you resonated with these ideas ☺️ Writing is a great thing to practice applying build mastery to especially when it comes to sharing your writing publicly. I’m right there with you still building up my confidence here. Wishing you lots of inspiration, creativity, and compassion along the way 💖
This resonates with me. I may introduce the concept to the university students I teach. They often associate struggle with failure instead of learning. Great piece!
Thank you Linda! It means so much to me that it resonates with you and that you may be able to use it to help others. When I was facilitating the group therapy I referenced, my specific group was for young adults - many of which were college students. I really enjoyed working with them and I agree that associating failure with struggle is common. I would imagine all the instant gratification that exists in today’s world adds to this. I always emphasized to them the importance of acknowledging progress no matter how small.